The INSIDER Summary:

• "The Bachelorette" Rachel Lindsay met Dean Unglert's family during the hometown dates.
• Unglert and his father are estranged.
• After a very personal meeting, Lindsay ended up sending Unglert home.
• She told Ryan Seacrest that it wasn't about the age difference between them.

"The Bachelorette" Rachel Lindsay narrowed her men down to the final three during Monday's episode on ABC, but fans were shocked to see her send Dean Unglert home after the hometown dates.

Lindsay spoke with "On Air With Ryan Seacrest"about why she ended up letting Unglert go despite telling him that she was also falling in love with him and it didn't have to do with the age gap between herself, 31, and Unglert, 26.

"Dean is young, but he's been through so much it makes him older; I call him 'my surprise,'" she said. "He was learning so much about things that had happened in his past, and he was flushing that out with me, and I felt like some of his love was wrapped up in that more than it was in me as a person."

The two of them had traveled to Aspen, Colorado to meet Unglert's family, including his estranged father. The meeting was the first time that the family had been together under the same roof in eight years.

Before dinner, Unglert was visibly nervous for the meeting and told Lindsay how his father became a Sikh Kundalini yogi and goes by the chosen name Paramroop Singh Khalsa. Unglert shared a photo on Instagram before the episode aired asking viewers "to be cognizant and accepting of the millions of people that belong to the Sikh community. Although he and I are not close, I respect my father's decision to follow his heart and pursue the life he has chosen."

Following dinner, Unglert and his father had an extremely personal conversation about their relationship.

Some fans were upset that the private moment was used after watching Unglert work through his relationship and then be sent home at the rose ceremony, but Lindsay explained that Unglert just "wasn't ready."

"Dean was learning a lot about himself," she said. "And I felt like some of the emotions that he had with me, in regards to love, were wrapped up in that. I was going through a lot of firsts with him... I felt like he wasn’t ready for the same things that I was."

In a blog she wrote for People, Lindsay reiterated how hard it was to let him go.

"I cried on the entire flight to Dallas, and I cried all day leading up to it," she wrote. "But when my tears dried, I realized that while I do feel a love for Dean, I’m just not sure he’s in a place in his life where he’s ready to settle down and start a family in the near future."

Unglert will appear on "Bachelor in Paradise" when it premieres August 14. 

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